Season 4 Ep. 2 // "The 4R's Framework: Hitting the Reset Button on Your Marriage Drift"

Have you ever looked at your spouse and realized you’ve become "coworkers" managing a small business called life? In this episode, we dive into the first pillar of our 4R’s Framework: Reset. 

We talk about the "drift" that happens in every marriage, that quiet, slow move toward becoming roommates instead of partners, and how to intentionally pull back together. We’re breaking down the difference between a contract and a covenant, how to find the "bonfire" behind your surface-level fights, and why honesty is the only way to rebuild your foundation.

Key Discussion Points

• The 4R’s Framework Overview:
  • Reset: Starting fresh, rebuilding the base, and getting honest about what’s broken.
  • Refresh: Renewing your perspective and your emotional and physical connection.
  • Recharge: Restoring your energy, margin, and capacity for one another.
  • Restore: Rebuilding trust and healing the damage.
• The Danger of the "Drift": Marriage rarely blows up overnight; it’s usually a slow, unintentional drift into logistics and task-driven living.
• Contract vs. Covenant Thinking:
  • Contract: Me-centered; "I’ll do my part if you do yours," often leading to withholding connection based on performance.
  • Covenant: We-centered; "I’m in, even if you are struggling," based on a sacred promise rather than a mood.
• Killing the "Bonfire" of Unmet Expectations: We often fight about the dishes, but the "bonfire" is actually feeling unseen or disrespected.
• The "Vent vs. Fix" Tool: A simple question that changed our communication: "Do you need me to listen, or do you need me to provide a solution?"

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